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All the bad habits, all the bad things.

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freeing. Today on Sunday's sessions, I'm

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joined by Dominic Alyssa, model,

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wellness creator, and host of the

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podcast Self-Def. In a moment of

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desperation, I wrote my thoughts down,

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and my life didn't change the moment I

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started journaling and practicing

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gratitude. But the compound effect was

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life-changing. Your community has grown

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and grown. It's It's one of the biggest

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I've ever seen. It is my religion. It

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keeps me in check. What I love about Dom

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is that her approach to wellness isn't

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extreme or overwhelming. It's about the

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small shifts. We don't need to live in

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this fight or flight. We can live in

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rest and digest. It's so simple. Anybody

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can do it at any age. If you're looking

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for inspiration to step into a more

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aligned, balanced, and healthy version

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of yourself, this conversation is for

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you. Once you start finding that space

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in your day, you get hooked to it. Let's

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get into it.

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Dominic, Lisa, welcome to Sunday

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>> Thank you for having me.

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>> So nice to have you. I can tell you that

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the girls in my office, they are

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>> And a lot of people that I speak to are.

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you. I know you're just at home making

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your content, but when you hear that,

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when you hear so many people are

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following you and inspired by you, how

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does that make you feel? It makes it all

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worth it. I think I've been on such a

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journey to get where I am with so many

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highs and lows, but I truly feel the

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most authentic I ever have and then to

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hear such a beautiful response from the

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community. I mean, that's what it's all

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about. So, yeah, it just lights my soul

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up and and it's my northstar to keep

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going. And it's interesting that you say

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you've been through highs and lows

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because I I guess Instagram is all about

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the highs and the the real and the

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moments that you showcase all look so

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glamorous and so fun. But I guess people

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would love to really hear about your

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your journey and and to be able to

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relate to the other part of your life

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and I know you do share a lot of that

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but take us back to the start of your

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career really which was modeling. Yeah.

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>> What was that like in that industry?

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modeling stuff. It's definitely where my

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career started. I was 15 when I was

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scouted, so I was super young. But from

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12 years old, I knew I wanted to model.

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said you should model. And from 15, I

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would leave school. I would work on the

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morning shows and do they would do my

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hair and makeup on the show and they'd

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have like little runway shows. And I

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just thought it was so much fun. And

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life. I love talking to people. So, that

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is every time you're on set, you meet

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new people. There's an opportunity for

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new connection. And that was really,

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really special. But yeah, it definitely

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eating, insomnia, anxiety, and a lot of

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bad behavior, not feeling good enough,

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which is where it stemmed from. And

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during that time, I didn't share any of

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the dark moments. I only shared the

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highlight reel, but with age comes

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wisdom and I started sharing more of my

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definitely shifted from just being seen

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as a model to, you know, business owner

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and leading community events and things

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like that. So, one of the things I

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social media is be authentic from the

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start. That's the most important thing

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because that's how your audience

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resonates with you. And I can tell you

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skyrocketed the moment I fell into being

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authentic. Like everything fell into

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just happened because I was being me,

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not trying to be anybody else. So you're

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sharing the highlight reel and you're

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posting photos and videos on Instagram

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and you're getting lots of likes and

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followers. Take us to that moment where

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you decided today's the day. I'm going

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to post something real. And what was it?

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disordered eating patterns um throughout

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my life on social media, and I remember

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sharing about the journey because I it's

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a forever journey, but I was on on the

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other end of it. I just wanted to kind

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of acknowledge what I had been through.

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important for me to share on my channel

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because the reason I fell into

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disordered eating was comparison, seeing

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super skinny people online and not

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having good role models in my life. So I

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flipped and I kind of wanted to share

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that I was actually struggling and I was

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be a big role model. So I'd share like

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old photos of myself where I looked

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really skinny and acknowledge that I

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wasn't well. I think also acknowledging

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that I suffered with insomnia was a

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massive thing. The podcast was a huge

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way for me to share more organically and

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authentically too because as we were

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speaking about off mic long format is an

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opportunity for your audience to get to

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know you. How much can you really share

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in a 30-cond reel? Not much. So when I

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started the podcast 3 years ago in my

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bedroom just with a camera, I really

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just went deep on everything. I was

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telling them, the audience, how I

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suffered with anxiety, I suffered with

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insomnia, how I used to drink red wine

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to fall asleep, all the bad habits, all

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the bad things. I just put it all on the

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table and it was freeing. So, I think

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yeah, there was definitely moments where

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I would share Instagram stories of of

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struggle, but it was really the podcast

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that allowed me to live into my most

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authentic self. What was the response?

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funniest part about it or the most

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ironic part about it because you're so

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scared of judgment. So you live in fear

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hiding who you are and hiding your past

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but then when you share those struggles

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the community bounds together. And yeah,

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me. And now I really try my best to be

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raw and honest, but that also comes

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with, of course, you're still going to

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going to post the joyful moments. But I

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think there needs to be a balance

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because we've all had dark days where

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you go on Instagram and you're comparing

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yourself and you're just like,

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how can they be so happy when I'm

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dealing with this? How like the head

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noise? But that's life. That's something

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you can't plan anything. Like don't if

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you plan something it's going to go the

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complete opposite way so don't even

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bother. So true. So you were going

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through all these things was sharing at

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the start of your journey to I guess

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fixing it or getting better, not having

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to drink red wine, not having the

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anxiety, not having the eating disorder.

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How how did you start on that journey?

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Gratitude was the catalyst for me

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transforming my life 150%. when I in

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when I when I introduced gratitude into

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my life nine years ago now I was in

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London for work modeling and yeah I was

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really struggling really really low and

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my best friend said why don't you start

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journaling writing down your thoughts

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and I thought that is so woowoo that is

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not going to do anything like I thought

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medication it is extremely powerful and

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an effective tool but in a moment moment

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of desperation, I wrote my thoughts down

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gratitude. But the compound effect was

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life-changing. It was practicing every

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day. I haven't missed a morning or night

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gratitude session in 9 years like since

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me in check every morning. I check in

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with myself. What am I grateful for

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today? So instead of even if I wake up

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to do today." Like so many people deal

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gratitude, I'm grateful that I'm here.

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150,000 people die every day. I'm here

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on this earth. I have an opportunity.

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I'm looking at my dog. Oh my god. I have

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love in my life, my husband. There's so

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many things to be grateful for. And that

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was the complete shift when it comes to

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dealing and managing all of those things

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hosting a retreat tomorrow all about

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manifestation. And I was thinking about

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how do you actually manifest? I wanted

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to share like a five step. And the first

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step is gratitude. It is being in this

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high vi vibration. So you attract high

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vibration back and everything else will

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fall into place. But I always tell

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people it's every day you have to do it.

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There's no quick fix. There is no quick

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fix if you want to do it the natural

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incredibly powerful.

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>> That is incredible that gratitude and

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journaling actually helped fix health

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problems that you had and habits that

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you had as well. What do you think is

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that science behind that? Well, there's

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so much science to back it. So, when you

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practice gratitude, you release dopamine

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and serotonin into your body, and these

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are the feel-good hormones. So if you

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start your day like that, again, I keep

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using the word compound, but it's it's

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so true for gratitude because it changes

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the whole trajectory of your day. Um, we

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also as humans have negativity bias. So

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we have nine negative thoughts for every

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positive thought we have. So you have to

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rewire your brain. Humanity has been

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social media. We're interacting with

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lights, TVs. So much has happened in our

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body, mental body hasn't adjusted. So,

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we were only meant to feel stress when

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we saw a tiger. Now, you get an email,

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you get a notification. Our nervous

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system is not designed for this. So

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having a gratitude practice which is off

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your phone cuz so many people say why

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don't you make an appdom. I'm so serious

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about getting people off their phone to

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write down their thoughts to sit down to

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calm their nervous system down and to

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rewire your brain. As I said you have

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nine negative thoughts for every

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positive thought because our bodies are

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designed if danger is there to protect.

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We are safe now. We don't need to live

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in this fight or fight or flight. We can

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live in rest and digest. And journaling

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is literally the most incredible tool

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because it takes a few minutes and it

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calms your nervous system down. You will

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notice your breath will naturally slow

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down because you practice it. So there's

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just so much science behind it. I wish

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that it was taught at schools so that

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kids were brought up with this

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incredible practice in a world that is

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so digitalized in a world where people

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are interacting

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with things they shouldn't be seeing at

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certain ages just cuz it's online. So

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practical terms tell us I think everyone

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listening to this is gonna immediately

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get out their selfdom journal.

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>> Get their selfdom journal

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>> and it's on her website and immediately

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start this practice. My gosh you have

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sold it to me. But what practically Dom

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we do? How do we do it? So I always say

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that our mind is like any other muscle.

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understand that if you wanted to get

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stronger, you would go to the gym every

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day. But people don't understand that if

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you want to be a more positive, calm

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person, you have to do the mental

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exercises every day. So, I created a

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journal that has prompts set out for you

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every morning and every night. And there

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is a beautiful quote on the top of each

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page. the quotes, not sorry, the quotes,

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the prompts are the same every morning

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and every night because it's that

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repetition. So, as I said, you want to

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grow your glutes, you go to the gym and

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you squat.

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The same goes with the mind. You follow

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those prompts the same every day. The

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first prompt that you'll do in the

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morning is today I am grateful for. Then

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your second prompt is today I will focus

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on which is so nice because it allows

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people to let go of a long to-do list

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and just be like okay what are the three

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things I'm going to focus on? I think

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people have an unrealistic expectation

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of what they can do in one day. And as I

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said you're going to be living in

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stress. Then you're probably going to

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check your phone to escape the stress.

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Then you're not even going to do your

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to-do list. So let's just write three

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things down. Um the third prompt is what

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would make today great because I think

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people are losing sight of joy. What's

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something small you can do that will

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give you a little bit of joy? And then

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the last one is my morning affirmation.

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same affirmation for a week so they can

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really believe it, really allow it to

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come into existence. We have heaps of

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examples in the journal of affirmations

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cuz I know some people aren't sure where

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to start. And then at night th this

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prompt the first prompt is the most

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transformative I believe which is I will

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let go of because as I said I was an

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insomniac. The prompt I will let go of

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changed everything for me because I

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would put my head on the pillow and be

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unable to sleep thinking about my day.

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What happened? Ah I sent this email

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shouldn't let it go. You cannot fix it

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in this moment. you're only putting

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yourself at a disservice right now. So,

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I will let go of has been such a

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powerful prompt for me. Often it's

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self-doubt. Often it's comparison. Often

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it will just be letting go of something

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silly that was said. We really overthink

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everything. So, it's really important to

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to do that prompt every night. Then you

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do your evening gratitude, which allows

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you to reflect on the day. And as I

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said, we have the negativity bias. So,

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you're going to think about the bad

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things usually at the end of the day,

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but no, we're going to rewire and be

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like, "Oh, no. Actually, this happened.

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I had a coffee with a friend that was

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super nice and it was an extra good

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coffee." Write it down. The third one is

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today I'm proud of myself for how often

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do we sit and say, you know what, I'm

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actually really proud of myself for

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something. It's not an egotistic thing

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to do. It's really important because

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that's again letting yourself know I can

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do it. And that's going to that's why I

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said it's amazing for manifesting

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because you're seeing the things that

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you did that worked well and then that

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is going to allow you to do it the next

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day and the next day and then you end

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with an affirmation. And because I

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struggle with sleep often my affirmation

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is I am calm. I have a regulated nervous

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system. I'm ready for bed. I am loved.

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And yeah, that's how it is. It's so

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simple. Anybody can do it at any age and

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it is just so transformative.

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>> Amazing. I I'm blown away cuz And it's

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free.

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>> Yeah. Literally.

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>> Literally get a piece of paper and

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write.

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>> Literally.

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>> And when you were doing this work, did

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this make you love yourself more so that

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you wanted to nourish your body more

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because you fixed all the eating issues?

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But not only that, you went the other

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way and became this wellness healthy

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person that we all now follow and and

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try to emulate.

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>> Yeah. Did that help you get

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>> 100%. The way you appreciate your body

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and its biomechanics

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is incredible. Instead of, you know,

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living in a state of lack and judgment,

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I started living as a human being. I was

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just and I always say I was be I'm

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beaming. I'm beaming energy. I just want

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to nourish my body so that I can be a

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mom one day. I can run after the kids.

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Like I want to live a long healthy life.

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I am really fed up with the industry

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right now to be honest. I've been a

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model for 15 years and I feel we've gone

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so backwards and I can't even imagine

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for young girls right now what it is

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like to be online. It is so

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disheartening. The hard work that so

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many of us pioneers have been doing for

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years feels like it's all crumbling down

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in front of us. Um, and it breaks my

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heart because I struggled with it for

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such a long time. So that's why I want

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to get my journal in the hands of as

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many people as I can because I know how

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much it can change your state of mind so

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that you can better handle when you see

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an Instagram post of someone eating

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1,000 calories or doing these crash

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diets. you're able to kind of have that

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awareness. The way I think of

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mindfulness tools is you have an

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awareness. So when a negative thought

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pops up, which it will every day you

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have negative thoughts, you have a space

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and in that space you have awareness to

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either acknowledge it as this isn't

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true. I don't want to believe this.

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Instead of just absorbing, absorbing,

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absorbing. And I think that's the power

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of all mindfulness, taking one breath

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before you respond to a message, that

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space. Once you start finding that space

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in your day, you get hooked to it cuz

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you're like, "This is how I should be

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living. This is how you make better

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rational decisions instead of always

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living in that fight or flight state."

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It feels almost silly for me to ask you

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this because I can see now from your

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journey that you've gone through the

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self-love journey and then that's how

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it's made your health and wellness

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decisions. But I did want to ask you

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when it comes to health and wellness, we

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all look up to you and you have such an

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incredible routine. What is that

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routine? What are your tips there? Yeah.

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So the morning is everything. I am

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massive on my morning and night routine.

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When I met my husband 3 years ago, he

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was like, "Oh my god." cuz I didn't hide

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it. Like I sleep like I'll get to the

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night routine after, but I didn't hide

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it who I was ever. Um, in the morning,

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my husband's a breath work coach, so

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that really helps. We wake up, we both

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meditate and journal on the couch. I

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have to say having a partner who

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journals as well is so special because

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we always will be writing and like, "Oh,

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I'm actually so grateful for you today."

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grateful that you took Crumble out this

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morning." So often you don't acknowledge

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these things and the gratitude journal I

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found is so good. We just don't let

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those things slip. So we do our

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journaling. Then I have my husband is

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fasting until about 11:00 and I will

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have breakfast. I try my best to have a

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savory breakfast because it's much

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better for your blood sugar. But

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sometimes I want a smoothie or a yogurt

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bowl. But I love making a frittata.

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That's a really good meal prep. Or I can

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do a protein smoothie as long as it's

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high protein. And then I'll take Crumble

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for a big walk. I live in Bondi, so I'll

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do the coastal walk. And then if I have

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time, I love going to Pilates as a

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luxury, but if I don't have time, then I

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start my day. And it's it's honestly

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simple. And if I don't have time, if

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I've got a shoot or something that

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starts at 7:00 a.m., I will always bring

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my alarm earlier so that I get those

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steps in, the journaling, the food, and

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a walk. Even 10-minute walk. People

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think I need a workout for an hour, but

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please take my advice to anyone

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listening. A 10-minute walk is

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incredible. Even if you have 10 minutes

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between a meeting to just go for a walk,

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it reenters you. It's really phenomenal.

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And then when it comes to diet, I eat a

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whole food diet. I keep it simple. If

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it's in a packet, don't usually eat it

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outskirts of the supermarket. I would

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much rather be eating fresh whole foods.

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I don't count calories. I just eat as

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many fruit and veg as I can. I recently

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found out that only 6 and 12% of

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Australians are eating enough fruit and

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vegetables, which is five veggies, two

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fruits. I remember that from school.

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Five veggies, two fruits. Only 6 and 12%

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of Aussies are getting that. It's

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absolutely wild. So, up your veggies. We

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need more fiber in this country. Um, and

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then at night, I have chamomile tea

530
00:20:51,120 --> 00:20:52,480
every night. really good for your

531
00:20:52,480 --> 00:20:54,799
digestion. My gratitude journal, the

532
00:20:54,799 --> 00:20:57,679
lights are dim. I'm really strict on

533
00:20:57,679 --> 00:20:59,520
light because as soon as you put the

534
00:20:59,520 --> 00:21:01,360
light on, your melatonin production

535
00:21:01,360 --> 00:21:03,760
slows down. So when the sun sets, your

536
00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:05,520
body goes, "Okay, it's time for rest."

537
00:21:05,520 --> 00:21:07,760
And starts producing melatonin. But

538
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:09,760
because people are watching TV, they're

539
00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:12,480
on their phone. Melatonin production is

540
00:21:12,480 --> 00:21:15,200
st doesn't happen. So that's why people

541
00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:17,520
are struggling to sleep. So really focus

542
00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:19,760
on dimming the lights. We don't have a

543
00:21:19,760 --> 00:21:22,320
TV in our house. Tom and I play cards

544
00:21:22,320 --> 00:21:24,640
every night. We're like an old couple.

545
00:21:24,640 --> 00:21:28,080
Um, and then I wear blue light blockers.

546
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,559
I sleep with an wraparound eye mask so

547
00:21:30,559 --> 00:21:33,120
that it covers my ears. I put lavender

548
00:21:33,120 --> 00:21:37,200
oil on my um, wrists. And honestly, I'm

549
00:21:37,200 --> 00:21:39,280
asleep within 3 minutes and I was an

550
00:21:39,280 --> 00:21:42,159
insomniac and I have a 90 plus sleep

551
00:21:42,159 --> 00:21:44,480
score every night. I can tell you now if

552
00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:47,679
I can do it, anybody could do it. Is

553
00:21:47,679 --> 00:21:49,600
that the number one tip that you've got

554
00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:51,600
for health and wellness? Sleep.

555
00:21:51,600 --> 00:21:54,080
Everything stems from sleep. Everything

556
00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:57,039
stems from sleep. If you're struggling

557
00:21:57,039 --> 00:21:59,360
with feeling hungry all the time, are

558
00:21:59,360 --> 00:22:01,280
you sleeping enough? Hunger cues are out

559
00:22:01,280 --> 00:22:03,280
of whack as soon as you do not get

560
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:06,799
enough sleep. Your skin so how much

561
00:22:06,799 --> 00:22:08,320
better does everyone look after a good

562
00:22:08,320 --> 00:22:11,360
night's rest? You can't even compare.

563
00:22:11,360 --> 00:22:15,440
Um, and look, 8020 rule. It's something

564
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:18,240
I really preach on my socials because

565
00:22:18,240 --> 00:22:20,480
it's not normal to go to bed at 9:00

566
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,440
every day, wake up at 5:30. Routines are

567
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,520
meant to be broken 20% of the time

568
00:22:25,520 --> 00:22:28,320
because life is worth living. But if you

569
00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:31,200
can focus on those 5 days a week, really

570
00:22:31,200 --> 00:22:33,679
sticking to the same sleep schedule,

571
00:22:33,679 --> 00:22:35,679
your body will love it. Your body loves

572
00:22:35,679 --> 00:22:37,919
routine. I want to talk about your

573
00:22:37,919 --> 00:22:40,080
community. everything that you say and

574
00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:42,960
and I can I can feel the love that you

575
00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:46,000
have with wanting to not only uh improve

576
00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:48,080
your own health and wellness but to help

577
00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:49,840
others do the same and I can I can feel

578
00:22:49,840 --> 00:22:52,400
it when you're speaking right now but so

579
00:22:52,400 --> 00:22:55,440
can the whole of Australia and your

580
00:22:55,440 --> 00:22:57,520
community has grown and grown. It's it's

581
00:22:57,520 --> 00:22:59,280
one of the biggest I've ever seen and

582
00:22:59,280 --> 00:23:01,200
you're starting these walks every single

583
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:03,679
week. Tell me more about that. How did

584
00:23:03,679 --> 00:23:06,080
you get these people to start coming and

585
00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:09,760
and what is it for? Yeah. So

586
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,240
last year, nearly a year ago, my mom

587
00:23:12,240 --> 00:23:15,280
passed away. Um it was really really

588
00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:17,840
it's still it when they say time heals,

589
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,559
I don't really know. It still feels very

590
00:23:20,559 --> 00:23:25,200
raw. Um but before mom passed away, I

591
00:23:25,200 --> 00:23:27,360
would do community walks just because I

592
00:23:27,360 --> 00:23:29,039
wanted to go for walks with people. Like

593
00:23:29,039 --> 00:23:30,320
I just put on my stories, does anyone

594
00:23:30,320 --> 00:23:32,080
want to go for a walk tomorrow? It

595
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:34,159
wasn't like every Thursday we do a walk,

596
00:23:34,159 --> 00:23:36,640
right? And the first walk, four people

597
00:23:36,640 --> 00:23:39,600
came, including my mom. And then as I

598
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:42,640
said, the authenticity piece

599
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:45,120
a week, a few weeks before, a few weeks

600
00:23:45,120 --> 00:23:47,440
after mom passed away, I was really

601
00:23:47,440 --> 00:23:49,280
struggling. I felt like I didn't people

602
00:23:49,280 --> 00:23:52,480
didn't understand. People didn't, you

603
00:23:52,480 --> 00:23:54,480
can't relate to me. I just felt really

604
00:23:54,480 --> 00:23:55,840
isolated. And then I said, you know

605
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:57,600
what? I'm going to do a walk. I'm going

606
00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:58,799
to do it again. I'm going to bring it

607
00:23:58,799 --> 00:24:02,159
back. And I had shared what was going on

608
00:24:02,159 --> 00:24:05,200
with my mom. And that first walk club

609
00:24:05,200 --> 00:24:08,880
back after mom passed away, 40 people

610
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:11,840
came and I was blown away. People had

611
00:24:11,840 --> 00:24:14,640
done drawings of mom and I. People had

612
00:24:14,640 --> 00:24:17,120
made us like cakes like to bring to the

613
00:24:17,120 --> 00:24:20,240
home. I was blown away by the kindness

614
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:23,520
of the community where it kind of took

615
00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:28,000
away the separation of followers and I'm

616
00:24:28,000 --> 00:24:30,720
influencer to actually we're all the

617
00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,480
same. We're all just humans trying to do

618
00:24:34,480 --> 00:24:37,200
life for the first time on this earth.

619
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:40,000
And I was like, "Wow,

620
00:24:40,000 --> 00:24:41,919
none of us are different. We're all the

621
00:24:41,919 --> 00:24:44,799
same." And after that walk, I was like,

622
00:24:44,799 --> 00:24:46,480
"Okay,

623
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:48,640
this isn't only beneficial to me. It's

624
00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:50,559
beneficial to the community. They're

625
00:24:50,559 --> 00:24:52,640
meeting like-minded people." So, I said,

626
00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:54,080
"You know what? I'm going to stick to it

627
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,600
every single week." Consistency is key.

628
00:24:57,600 --> 00:25:01,039
And week on week it just got bigger,

629
00:25:01,039 --> 00:25:04,480
bigger, more people coming. Um, and my

630
00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:06,159
favorite thing is the walk club success

631
00:25:06,159 --> 00:25:07,520
stories where I see girls who met at

632
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:10,320
walk club out in the wild. I'm like, "Oh

633
00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:13,279
my god." And it's just so special. We

634
00:25:13,279 --> 00:25:15,039
have a WhatsApp.

635
00:25:15,039 --> 00:25:17,679
It doesn't feel like they're my

636
00:25:17,679 --> 00:25:20,720
community. I'm in the community. So

637
00:25:20,720 --> 00:25:22,880
yeah, we had 300 girls rock cup last

638
00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:26,080
week. It was absolutely insane. And now

639
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,320
we're going to fly around the country

640
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,120
hosting walks. So, it's really powerful.

641
00:25:31,120 --> 00:25:33,919
I never expected it to grow like this. I

642
00:25:33,919 --> 00:25:36,960
just did it because I was really wanting

643
00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:39,279
connection in a time where I felt really

644
00:25:39,279 --> 00:25:43,440
lonely and yeah, that's why I've kept

645
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:45,279
doing it and I just love it. I look

646
00:25:45,279 --> 00:25:47,360
forward to it every single week. It's

647
00:25:47,360 --> 00:25:49,520
it's magical. Especially when now I have

648
00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:51,440
like my OGs, the girls who have been

649
00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:53,679
there since day dot and then every week

650
00:25:53,679 --> 00:25:57,120
we have new faces. Um, yeah, it's really

651
00:25:57,120 --> 00:25:59,679
special. You speak a lot about your

652
00:25:59,679 --> 00:26:01,600
beautiful mom.

653
00:26:01,600 --> 00:26:04,320
>> What was I know she taught you so many

654
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,400
things. What was the one thing that you

655
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:08,480
just have taken away from everything

656
00:26:08,480 --> 00:26:10,240
that she's taught you if there can be

657
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:12,720
one? I mean, it's so hard. Like, she is

658
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,200
just a wealth of knowledge, but she knew

659
00:26:15,200 --> 00:26:17,440
how to live life. She had fun and she

660
00:26:17,440 --> 00:26:19,440
was present. And I think that's the

661
00:26:19,440 --> 00:26:21,440
biggest takeaway, especially in a world

662
00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:24,799
where people are so consumed by their

663
00:26:24,799 --> 00:26:27,760
phones and by everything going on. Like

664
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,080
mom had a way of making anyone feel like

665
00:26:30,080 --> 00:26:32,480
the only person in the room. She would

666
00:26:32,480 --> 00:26:35,760
like just have this energy and vitality.

667
00:26:35,760 --> 00:26:38,080
And I think it's something that I really

668
00:26:38,080 --> 00:26:40,480
want to encapsulate and bring into my

669
00:26:40,480 --> 00:26:44,000
life. And yeah, it's just she's just one

670
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,640
magical woman. There's just she's

671
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:49,360
literally around though. She is talking

672
00:26:49,360 --> 00:26:51,520
to me all the time. She pops up at the

673
00:26:51,520 --> 00:26:53,279
randomst moment. She's a rainbow

674
00:26:53,279 --> 00:26:55,120
whenever I see rainbows and because we

675
00:26:55,120 --> 00:26:57,760
live on the water. It's like rainbow

676
00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:59,520
city out there. Especially on a day I

677
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,120
think maybe that's why I like rainy days

678
00:27:01,120 --> 00:27:03,120
cuz I'm like there might be a rainbow.

679
00:27:03,120 --> 00:27:05,039
Um you read the book Signs?

680
00:27:05,039 --> 00:27:07,760
>> No. I need to read it. I love it.

681
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:10,400
>> It's so incredible and it's all about

682
00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:13,520
this. Okay. and and the signs and how to

683
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:15,360
read them and it's a beautiful book. I

684
00:27:15,360 --> 00:27:15,600
think

685
00:27:15,600 --> 00:27:17,679
>> I love that. A perfect day for a read

686
00:27:17,679 --> 00:27:20,000
after this. You've given us a wealth of

687
00:27:20,000 --> 00:27:21,679
information. My gosh, I feel like I've

688
00:27:21,679 --> 00:27:22,799
learned so much. I need to go home

689
00:27:22,799 --> 00:27:24,559
straight away and write everything down

690
00:27:24,559 --> 00:27:25,840
really quickly. But you've been through

691
00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:29,200
such a transformation. What is the most

692
00:27:29,200 --> 00:27:31,120
important thing to you aside from sleep

693
00:27:31,120 --> 00:27:33,760
that you are focused on right now? Yeah.

694
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,000
So, I'm on my fertility journey, which

695
00:27:36,000 --> 00:27:39,919
is so exciting. Um, and when it comes to

696
00:27:39,919 --> 00:27:41,760
fertility, your view on health really

697
00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:43,520
changes, especially when you've

698
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:45,039
struggled with disordered eating in the

699
00:27:45,039 --> 00:27:47,039
past. Like the way I view my body is

700
00:27:47,039 --> 00:27:49,919
just so different. I'm like preparing it

701
00:27:49,919 --> 00:27:52,880
to be able to house a baby and to grow a

702
00:27:52,880 --> 00:27:55,840
child and to grow life. So rest is

703
00:27:55,840 --> 00:27:57,279
number one. Obviously, we've spoken

704
00:27:57,279 --> 00:27:59,279
about that, but rest is so much more

705
00:27:59,279 --> 00:28:01,919
than sleep. Um, for any of your

706
00:28:01,919 --> 00:28:04,240
listeners who are busy mamas and stuff,

707
00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,360
you can find rest in a yoga nidra. You

708
00:28:07,360 --> 00:28:10,559
need to be you almost need to be

709
00:28:10,559 --> 00:28:13,200
efficient with your rest. So sometimes

710
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,120
you feel like taking a nap. I'd

711
00:28:15,120 --> 00:28:17,279
recommend doing a meditation or a yoga

712
00:28:17,279 --> 00:28:19,600
nidra. That is equivalent to 3 to 5

713
00:28:19,600 --> 00:28:21,760
hours of sleep because your body goes

714
00:28:21,760 --> 00:28:24,880
into such a relaxed state. So finding

715
00:28:24,880 --> 00:28:27,039
moments throughout the day to do 10

716
00:28:27,039 --> 00:28:28,480
minutes of breath, 10 minutes of

717
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,720
meditation just to calm my nervous

718
00:28:30,720 --> 00:28:33,279
system down. I'm on a really strict

719
00:28:33,279 --> 00:28:35,679
supplement routine. So I've been

720
00:28:35,679 --> 00:28:39,120
learning a lot about nutrition and the

721
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:41,360
food we eat these days just isn't as

722
00:28:41,360 --> 00:28:43,600
nutritious as it once was. Unless you're

723
00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:46,320
eating organic, biodnamic food, which is

724
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:48,799
really difficult. The food, if you eat

725
00:28:48,799 --> 00:28:51,120
biodnamic organic, is 80% more

726
00:28:51,120 --> 00:28:54,720
nutritious than non. So, I'm really

727
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:57,279
trying to eat organic when I can, but in

728
00:28:57,279 --> 00:28:59,440
order to make up for when I can't, I am

729
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:02,559
supplementing. Um, omega-3s, I really

730
00:29:02,559 --> 00:29:05,360
recommend magnesium. Really recommend

731
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:09,120
zinc iron. Iron is a huge one as well. I

732
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:13,279
used to be iron deficient and I recently

733
00:29:13,279 --> 00:29:16,320
discovered that when you turn 14 or

734
00:29:16,320 --> 00:29:17,679
whenever you get you get your first

735
00:29:17,679 --> 00:29:19,200
bleed,

736
00:29:19,200 --> 00:29:22,480
you need to double your iron intake for

737
00:29:22,480 --> 00:29:25,039
the rest of your bleeding years. But

738
00:29:25,039 --> 00:29:27,200
often at that age, you are going to

739
00:29:27,200 --> 00:29:29,679
start struggling with disordered eating.

740
00:29:29,679 --> 00:29:31,760
Might try a vegan diet, a vegetarian

741
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:33,279
diet. And there's no hate to those

742
00:29:33,279 --> 00:29:35,520
diets. Just want to let everybody know.

743
00:29:35,520 --> 00:29:37,520
But if you take on those diets, you need

744
00:29:37,520 --> 00:29:39,039
to be very aware of how much you're

745
00:29:39,039 --> 00:29:41,520
eating to get enough. So, I struggled

746
00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,080
with iron deficiency and anemia for such

747
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:46,159
a long time. So, now I'm really

748
00:29:46,159 --> 00:29:48,559
prioritizing red meat, slow cooking

749
00:29:48,559 --> 00:29:52,240
lamb, slow cooking in general. Um, these

750
00:29:52,240 --> 00:29:53,679
things that just weren't important to

751
00:29:53,679 --> 00:29:55,840
me. I was a bit more of like efficient

752
00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:57,840
health, like how can I get nutrients

753
00:29:57,840 --> 00:30:00,080
quickly? Whilst now I'm prepping my body

754
00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:02,799
for a baby. I'm like slow cooking, a

755
00:30:02,799 --> 00:30:05,440
little bit more nesting. Um, so yeah,

756
00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:07,440
it's been a really nice journey. It's

757
00:30:07,440 --> 00:30:10,080
like coming back to home and self. And I

758
00:30:10,080 --> 00:30:12,399
think health has seasons, you have

759
00:30:12,399 --> 00:30:15,120
seasons. I mean, the world has seasons

760
00:30:15,120 --> 00:30:17,440
for a reason. So, you can't stick to the

761
00:30:17,440 --> 00:30:20,880
same routine every single day, 365 days

762
00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:22,320
for the rest of your life. So, you have

763
00:30:22,320 --> 00:30:25,679
to be go with the flow and understand

764
00:30:25,679 --> 00:30:27,200
what season you're in. And that's where

765
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:28,960
the journaling helps cuz you can kind of

766
00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:30,720
start understanding where you're at

767
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,200
yourself and leading from there. So,

768
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:34,720
that's what I'm really focusing on.

769
00:30:34,720 --> 00:30:37,279
Really good nutrition, really good rest,

770
00:30:37,279 --> 00:30:39,200
um, and weight training. I love weight

771
00:30:39,200 --> 00:30:42,159
training. I have a PT, Giannis. Um, and

772
00:30:42,159 --> 00:30:45,039
he's incredible. I recommend a PT if you

773
00:30:45,039 --> 00:30:47,279
can, at least for a few sessions before

774
00:30:47,279 --> 00:30:49,360
you go to a gym to prevent injury, to

775
00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:51,760
learn how to lift weights. As women, we

776
00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:54,080
need to be lifting weights. Um, it's not

777
00:30:54,080 --> 00:30:55,760
going to make you bulky. It's going to

778
00:30:55,760 --> 00:30:58,399
show you resilience and strength.

779
00:30:58,399 --> 00:30:59,760
>> And how often are you doing that?

780
00:30:59,760 --> 00:31:00,720
>> Three times a week.

781
00:31:00,720 --> 00:31:03,520
>> Wow. Yeah. It's really good. And like

782
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,360
when you have a trainer, it's great

783
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:08,000
because you can cater it to what your

784
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:09,840
energy is at that time because as women,

785
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:11,760
we have cycles. We feel different all

786
00:31:11,760 --> 00:31:13,600
the time. And I do think sometimes if

787
00:31:13,600 --> 00:31:15,760
you go to a class where there's no

788
00:31:15,760 --> 00:31:18,159
adjustments for how you're feeling, if

789
00:31:18,159 --> 00:31:19,679
you're in your ludial phase, you're

790
00:31:19,679 --> 00:31:22,080
probably not in the mood to get slammed

791
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:23,679
at the gym. But if you're ovulating,

792
00:31:23,679 --> 00:31:25,679
maybe you have more energy. So I think

793
00:31:25,679 --> 00:31:28,240
women need to come back to their cycle

794
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,320
and learn what works for them at the

795
00:31:30,320 --> 00:31:32,080
different parts. Once you start living

796
00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:33,760
in tune with your cycle, it's really

797
00:31:33,760 --> 00:31:35,840
incredible. You can book, you know, the

798
00:31:35,840 --> 00:31:38,080
podcast when you're ovulating. You can

799
00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,399
book the um bookkeeping when you're in

800
00:31:40,399 --> 00:31:43,200
your ludal phase and you just you get

801
00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:43,919
better results.

802
00:31:43,919 --> 00:31:45,519
>> How do we track all this?

803
00:31:45,519 --> 00:31:48,399
>> Girl, I'm launching a journal. So, it's

804
00:31:48,399 --> 00:31:50,880
coming out soon. Um, and it will allow

805
00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,760
women to document. So day one of your

806
00:31:53,760 --> 00:31:57,039
cycles day the day you start your bleed

807
00:31:57,039 --> 00:32:00,399
and you start documenting day one how am

808
00:32:00,399 --> 00:32:02,799
I feeling what exercise would serve me

809
00:32:02,799 --> 00:32:05,840
what am I craving start learning the

810
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:09,440
trends in your body after 3 months

811
00:32:09,440 --> 00:32:11,120
you're going to notice okay I'm like

812
00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,360
this during this part of my cycle I'm

813
00:32:13,360 --> 00:32:15,919
like this so then it doesn't become

814
00:32:15,919 --> 00:32:18,399
before your cycle you're like everyone

815
00:32:18,399 --> 00:32:20,960
hates me everyone that you can look back

816
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:22,399
and be like oh I'm always like this

817
00:32:22,399 --> 00:32:25,600
before my period. Everything's okay. So,

818
00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:27,519
yeah, I think it's so important. We did

819
00:32:27,519 --> 00:32:29,200
not get learned this at school.

820
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:30,000
>> No, we didn't.

821
00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:33,360
>> Nothing. We had all

822
00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,760
all of us are guilty of this.

823
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:38,159
>> Like, no one taught us anything except

824
00:32:38,159 --> 00:32:40,960
wear a condom and and that, but at the

825
00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:43,919
end of the day, a woman's hormones are

826
00:32:43,919 --> 00:32:45,840
so intricate.

827
00:32:45,840 --> 00:32:48,320
People ovulate at different times. It's

828
00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,880
definitely not the same for everybody.

829
00:32:50,880 --> 00:32:52,640
And I think there needs to be so much

830
00:32:52,640 --> 00:32:55,840
more education around it. Um because as

831
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:58,640
I said, people iron needs a double when

832
00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:01,279
they're, you know, bleeding and no one's

833
00:33:01,279 --> 00:33:03,519
teaching anyone this. People are

834
00:33:03,519 --> 00:33:05,519
restricting. No, everyone's going

835
00:33:05,519 --> 00:33:08,640
against their body's signals. You know,

836
00:33:08,640 --> 00:33:10,080
your body's telling you, I actually need

837
00:33:10,080 --> 00:33:11,840
rest today. No, I need to go to the gym.

838
00:33:11,840 --> 00:33:14,159
I booked the class in. I need to exhaust

839
00:33:14,159 --> 00:33:16,640
myself. Like I'm trying to teach women

840
00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:18,240
this. And it was funny cuz my trainer

841
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,559
even today I was saying how one of the

842
00:33:20,559 --> 00:33:22,399
girls was looking amazing that he was

843
00:33:22,399 --> 00:33:24,799
training and he was like she's upped her

844
00:33:24,799 --> 00:33:27,760
calories and she's doing breath work.

845
00:33:27,760 --> 00:33:30,320
She's has a regulated nervous system.

846
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:33,200
The weight is just dropping off. When

847
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:35,840
you reduce your cortisol, your body's

848
00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,039
not going to live in fight or flight.

849
00:33:37,039 --> 00:33:39,360
It's not going to start storing fat.

850
00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:41,919
It's calm. So you just got to live in

851
00:33:41,919 --> 00:33:43,519
that calm state. Honestly, it's

852
00:33:43,519 --> 00:33:45,200
lifechanging. I think people are getting

853
00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:46,880
it all wrong. It's one of the things I'm

854
00:33:46,880 --> 00:33:49,919
like preaching so much on my channel.

855
00:33:49,919 --> 00:33:52,240
Thank you for being such honestly an

856
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:55,840
inspiration and for saying it how it is,

857
00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:58,399
but also dealing with this issue, which

858
00:33:58,399 --> 00:34:00,000
is we're all living in this world where

859
00:34:00,000 --> 00:34:01,600
we're trying to do all these different

860
00:34:01,600 --> 00:34:04,080
things, but we're getting it wrong.

861
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:04,799
>> Yeah.

862
00:34:04,799 --> 00:34:07,760
>> And it's so simple. Journaling, being

863
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,239
grateful, eating more. I heard you just

864
00:34:10,239 --> 00:34:12,960
say, I'm going to write that one down.

865
00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:16,159
and getting better sleep, eating real

866
00:34:16,159 --> 00:34:18,239
food, eating more fruit and veggies,

867
00:34:18,239 --> 00:34:20,800
understanding our cycles. So much that

868
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:22,399
we've unpacked today, Dom, thank you so

869
00:34:22,399 --> 00:34:24,239
much. I have one final question and now

870
00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:26,800
I've forgotten it.

871
00:34:26,800 --> 00:34:30,079
>> I have one final question. Um, what is

872
00:34:30,079 --> 00:34:31,760
next for you?

873
00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:32,159
>> Well,

874
00:34:32,159 --> 00:34:33,599
>> aside from your fertility,

875
00:34:33,599 --> 00:34:35,679
>> Yeah. Um, well, obviously, yeah, the

876
00:34:35,679 --> 00:34:38,159
fertility thing is super exciting. And

877
00:34:38,159 --> 00:34:40,560
what's next for me is, yeah, we're

878
00:34:40,560 --> 00:34:43,119
launching the hormone journal, which is

879
00:34:43,119 --> 00:34:44,719
so exciting. We've worked alongside a

880
00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:47,440
naturopath, which is just super special.

881
00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,159
I'm so passionate. My dream is to get my

882
00:34:50,159 --> 00:34:52,719
journal into a million women's hands to

883
00:34:52,719 --> 00:34:54,719
transform their life because it will

884
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:58,160
transform it forever. And yeah, I'm just

885
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,240
going to keep going with what I'm doing

886
00:35:00,240 --> 00:35:02,000
and living in flow state and see what

887
00:35:02,000 --> 00:35:03,599
happens. Tell us where to get your

888
00:35:03,599 --> 00:35:07,119
journal. Yeah, so head to selfdom.au. U

889
00:35:07,119 --> 00:35:08,720
and you can get a journal there and I'll

890
00:35:08,720 --> 00:35:11,119
make a discount code for you guys. What

891
00:35:11,119 --> 00:35:12,240
should I call it?

892
00:35:12,240 --> 00:35:16,400
>> Naked 10. Naked 10 for 10% off. Amazing.

893
00:35:16,400 --> 00:35:18,640
Thank you so much. So wonderful to have

894
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:20,720
you today. We are I feel so inspired. I

895
00:35:20,720 --> 00:35:21,760
can tell everyone in this room,

896
00:35:21,760 --> 00:35:23,280
including the guys, are extremely

897
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:26,160
inspired by you. You are incredible.

898
00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,000
Thank you so much, Dom. Thank you so

899
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:29,760
much. I've loved coming on your podcast

900
00:35:29,760 --> 00:35:31,520
and you're so inspiring with everything

901
00:35:31,520 --> 00:35:33,359
you're doing and I'm really passionate

902
00:35:33,359 --> 00:35:37,599
about um sun protection. I had a skin a

903
00:35:37,599 --> 00:35:40,160
precancerous mole removed and when I see

904
00:35:40,160 --> 00:35:43,119
the UV11 trend and people doing all that

905
00:35:43,119 --> 00:35:46,240
I'm like so thank you for doing what you

906
00:35:46,240 --> 00:35:48,720
do because we need more people like you.

907
00:35:48,720 --> 00:35:49,440
>> Thanks D.

908
00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:52,160
>> Of course. Thank you.